Last night
I was reading a book that I just purchased and I realized that sometimes I go
through books so quickly that I don’t enjoy or get as much out of them as I
would if I slowed down. I devour books
in large quantities, last year alone I read over ninety books… As my
mind entertained this idea I realized that a lot of the time I am still
extremely impatient in areas that I haven’t given God to transform. I want to live at a fast pace much like I do
in my reading- waiting sucks… I read
somewhere that God invented time so that He wouldn’t give us everything all at
once (smile). Usually time helps us to
mature and through our growth we are better able to receive and care for our
gifts. In relationships, time plays an
important role. It guides us prudently with
wisdom and reason. The slow progression
from acquaintance, friendship, courtship to marriage needs to come about at a pace
that allows people to see past their emotions.
We need time to get to know each other truthfully beyond our romantic
notions and discern through action and prayer God’s will.
Once we have discerned that we are ready for marriage then we are ready to
pursue courtship. After that step has
been taken – one needs to learn to enjoy the various phases of the spouse discernment
process. I think for some of us-
especially us romantic people- it’s hard almost unnatural to enjoy the beginnings
without craving for more intimacy. Yet,
from experience- in matters of two, one needs to learn patience especially when
it appears like nothing is happening, God is at work. Much like grapevines in the winter seem dead
in activity, yet underneath they are resting and storing their energy for spring.
I like a
man and am currently praying for discernment.
In addition, I am praying for patience and the ability to enjoy the
state I find myself in. From the female
perspective- it’s really difficult to wait on the man to take action. It’s even harder to show interest without
becoming overpowering and taking the lead in the relationship. Harder still when there’s distance between
the two of you, but from what I gather God loves challenges (smile). Sometimes I write messages and then delete
them because I think I am being too forward.
It’s just really difficult to find that balance between sending clear
signals without taking the reign. So,
men if you think that we women have the easy role as the pursued – think again. Waiting requires a lot of patience, hope and
trust in the Lord…
Anyway,
yesterday I picked up a book on courtship because I am still rather new to this
area of husband discernment (smile). I
read a couple chapters and I put it down so that I would soak and meditate on what
I had read. The thing is that if I ever
have a daughter I want to be able to tell her that I trusted God so
completely that during the wait for her daddy I never lost my joy or my
peace. I want to be able to tell her
that I enjoyed getting to know her daddy slowly following the will of God- with
wisdom and calming of emotions. That
taking the time to know him as a friend, a boyfriend and eventually as my
spouse was worth all the drops of patient sweat. That her daddy was a man of honor, godly and
that he took the time to protect my heart and love me slowly. That just as God had protected and saved my
future spouse and me for each other He would do the same for her. That God’s original plan for romance as
attacked by modern philosophy as it is- is a sure path towards true and lasting love…
SMILE.
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