Boy Meets Girl

I bought Boy Meets Girl, a book on Christian courtship in hopes of getting some good godly council.  I have been slowly reading it trying to reflect on the various points the book makes on dating with a purpose.  Though I have read material in the past on the topic I have found this book extremely helpful.  A few things have caught my attention and though they seem like common sense items sometimes we need them pointed out to see more clearly.  The following are some of the highlights that I would like to share with you because I think they will help you as much as they have helped me in this single-hood walk (wink).  

• Marriage- “Courtship is a season for two people to grow in friendship, to get to know each other’s character and to see how they interact as a couple… It’s a time to consider the possibility of marriage and to seek to make a wise choice… Some courtships end with marriage and others with two people deciding to be friends.”

• Patience- There’s a reason that the famous verse of First Corinthians begins with “love is patient.”  Enjoy it, don’t rush.  Love is something that happens over time and marriage is one of the most important decisions that you will ever make- thus, pace yourselves. “We are to treat each other with holiness and sincerity and to make an informed and wise decision about marriage.”

• Intentional Communication- Taking your time in courtship is wise, but don’t assume that a long courtship means that you are communicating well.  Be curious about your significant other ask them questions, study them and learn as much as you can about them, “communication doesn’t just happen it’s something that you have to plan for and work at.”

• Guard your Hearts- While romance is not the first priority of courtship showing that you are sincerely interested in one another needs to take place.  A man should guard a woman’s heart, but through his actions show her he really likes her because sometimes his reserve can be interpreted as lack of interest.  

• Let God Lead-   Follow and trust our Lord.  Sometimes He will reveal someone who you have known awhile, but never saw in a romantic light.  Other times He will bring someone completely new into your life.  Believe in Him trusting that He who created you knows best.  He’s the only one that knows the who, the how and the when of your love story.

I am only half way through the book and am looking forward to sharing my new found knowledge (in the upcoming posts) in hopes that all these great tips help you maintain your peace and joy in the Lord (wink).