Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Love is Hard Work and Hard Work Sometimes Hurts

I have been studying the classical prophets, the men sent by God to disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed.  While examining the “Book of Amos,” I finally understood why God punished all the nations that disobeyed and turned against Him.  He did so out of love, to guide and bring back to goodness His beloved.  We usually associate love with joy, with getting our way; but, God’s Word teaches us that love while it produces good feelings it’s quite a serious commitment.  It’s not something that comes natural- many times we find ourselves needing to choose to love especially when we are hurting and it feels so darn unnatural.  The prophet Amos goes out into the many tribes, telling the people that they have turned against God that their ways have created separation between themselves and God.  He warns them to return to God, to repent of their sin and to remember their story of deliverance but they refuse to listen.  So, God uses tough love to get them back in the right path.  We forget that love wants the best for the beloved and sometimes the best requires a form of tough love.  A good parent disciplines his child when the child needs guidance.  Good parents don’t stand by and allow their children to walk in a destructive path. Thus, love means making tough choices for the well-being of the beloved.

I was reading an article about how many single people have this erroneous view that love comes naturally and effortlessly.  Yet, if we look at our Christian faith we see the opposite.  Love is hard! Just examine the popular verse in Corinthians, the verse often recited at weddings and we begin to see that love requires practice and a lifetime of learning.  “Love is patient, love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.  It doesn’t insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful, it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in truth.  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” If I were to substitute my name where love is, I wouldn’t get very far, “Penny is patient, Penny is kind…”  I would fail right at the start because I lose my patience (some days quicker than others) and when I am hurt I just think of protecting myself and not about being kind.  Most everything requires a great deal of discipline, effort and practice.  If we want to become great athletes or performers we need to invest a great deal because developing skills always requires effort and commitment.  Thus, if trivial things like becoming great athletes requires work how can we say that love doesn’t require even more dedication.  In scripture we see that love is more than a beautiful feeling that comes from our hearts, real love is a choice that requires action (love heals, forgives, provides, communicates, befriends…).  It’s not an everlasting pink feeling, but a sacrificial choice that many times steps all over our pride and delivers us from selfishness.  It’s an active doing that doesn’t depend on feeling, but on choice. That doesn’t mean that love is devoid of emotion- it just means that we must act like Christians even if our feelings betray us. 

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Love is hard that’s why we need to abide in God, to get our strength from Him and even invite Him to love through us when we feel incapable of doing it. We also need to practice loving every day so that we can become better lovers.  We need to remain connected to the source of love through prayer.  To talk to Him about our personal struggles and ask Him for guidance.  In the narratives of the classical prophets we see that love is hard.  God had to use tough love to get Israel back on the right path, but we also learn that tough love is always controlled by a soft heart. Read Chapter Elven verse eight through nine in the “Book of Hosea.” In those two verses God says, I won’t destroy you because my love is greater than my anger. I am God, the Holy One, who can control my wrath and behave like God.  Even though God exercises tough love on His chosen people and even though He disciplines them - above all He loves them!  These Old Testament narratives teach us that love is not easy, that sometimes love doesn’t feel good, that sometimes it feels like we are being punished- but love straightens our paths and corrects our behavior in hopes of making us better versions of ourselves.

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